Dealing With Burnout
I have been MIA the past few weeks - and let me just say life has been happening! Some more big changes in the Butler household are coming up and I’m very excited to share them with you - later, lol. But I have been trying to roll with all the newness life is continuously bringing, all while juggling motherhood and marriage - which ladies we know can be tiringggg but is sooo rewarding.
I’ve been planning a vacation, coming up with new ideas for homeschooling, play dates, family events, anddd with all the mayhem of parenting comes the sometimes inevitable burnout! Which happened 😩! Thus causing my social media hiatus 😄 And I’ll be honest, I’m truly an introvert at heart so sometimes even when I’ve been “too social” on social media - I have to take a break 😂 (Is anyone else like that or am I crazy? Lol.)
Butttt, I am feeling refreshed and have reset my social battery as well as reset my mindset and I’m ready to tackle these next set of goals I have lined up as well as continue to thrive in my purpose because this chapter of my life, I am claiming will be one of the best chapters. 😊
So, when the burnout hits, let’s remember to take it one step at a time, one day at a time, one to-do list item at a time, and one milestone at a time. I’m reminded that the race isn’t given to the swift or the strong - meaning some days I just may feel weak, I may feel unenergized, uncomfortable, or burned out - but as long as I keep enduring until I finish this race that’s all that matters.
In my moments of burnout, this is what I like to do :
Pray. Read my word. Meditate on God. - Sometimes feeling burned out is our sign to spend more time with God. And prayer and worship does just that. Spending time with God centers me, alleviates the stress, and gives me the motivation and confidence to overcome any battle.
Write. Journal. Poetry. - Find your release. Maybe it’s a self care day, shopping, exercising, or yoga. But do something that helps you release stress. For me, it’s writing down my thoughts or writing poetry. But this will look different for everyone.
Clean/Organize - Organization and restructuring my life alwaysss gives me peace lol. For some reason if my world feels like chaos - a clean house, a fresh perspective and a new mindset helps me. So whether it’s doing a fresh budget, deep cleaning, reorganizing - adding some structure in whatever aspect I can gives me the stability I need to move forward.
Communicate with my husband. - Communication is key!! Maybe we need to readjust some things, change our routine, maybe I need to delegate some of what’s on my plate to him, or maybe a date night is needed to unwind and reconnect. So, when you’re feeling the burnout, seek support. Utilize your village - whether it’s from your partner, family, friends, or church.
Wine. - Nothing like some “mommy juice” to unwind after a long day. Lol. Sitting in a nice bubble bath with candles lit and a glass of wine (or any adult beverage) can really reduce tension and give both my mind and body rest.
Rest - And of course, REST. We all need rest to recharge and reset our minds. Sometimes when we are constantly on the go, we are not allowing our minds to settle and the stress and anxiety just continues to build. But after a good nights sleep (or an amazing nap), I find that I am reenergized and ready to do what needs be done!
Burnout happens. But we don’t have to sit in it or wallow in it. We can come out of it stronger, renewed, and more determined to succeed. Sometimes burnout is a catalyst for a change we probably needed to happen anyway. So instead of letting burnout trigger you, use it as a sign that you need to rest, reset, and reprioritize. Cause mama’s - when we’re not whole, the family can feel it too! And the goal is to be the best we can for our households. Even if it means RESTING ❤️
🤍 J. Leigh
